Thursday, October 21, 2010

Seeking advice: Halloween Parade

Ryan does not believe in cosmetics.  If I paint my nails, he squirms and begs, "Off da purple" (or whatever the color happens to me).  If I put lotion on his skin, he demands, "Wipe it off, wipe it off" (mostly playfully now, but it used to be desperate). And we all know how he reacts if he catches me wearing a sticker.

This weekend, my derby league is "marching" in a Halloween parade.  A big parade - like, 15,000 people, with celebrity judges and loud marching bands and stuff.  And we are all supposed to skate around wearing Dia de los Muertos face paint.

Between the makeup and the noise and the crowd and the sensory overload and the being outside for 2-3 hours in late-afternoon / early-evening, I don't see this going well.

I see a couple of options:

- I could stay home and not participate.  But that's no fun.
- I could have Ryan watch the girls put on their makeup so it's a bit less scary.

- I can stay off skates and Ryan could march with me.

- Ryan could hang out with Stu on the sidelines, and if it all becomes too much Stu can whisk him away.

- Ryan could stay home with Stu all afternoon.  


Leaving Ryan at home would be the easiest, except that Ryan has been really anti-Daddy lately.  Like, more so than usual.  He finds new and increasingly cruel ways to try to get Stu to leave the room whenever Stu attempts to play with him, and then when Stu insists on sticking around, Ryan has a meltdown.  And Stu's ego can only handle so much abuse.

Giving Ryan the option to leave early seems like a fair compromise, but the parade is like an hour from our house, so it could end up being a lot of traveling for not much payoff.

Or Ryan could surprise us all and love the parade.

So, with two days til the parade, I'm asking for your advice: what would you do with Ryan?




5 comments:

  1. I would try this
    - I could have Ryan watch the girls put on their makeup so it's a bit less scary.


    - I can stay off skates and Ryan could march with me.


    - and if it all becomes too much Stu can whisk him away.

    Good Luck!

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  2. Agreed! Bring him to the house so he can us "normal" and the transformation. Come to Gravy & Slash place in Tarrytown. This way you can sort of gauge his reaction without traveling to Nyack. If he is uncomfortable then you can go with another option. If people in make-up and costumes bring an unpleasant reaction the parade might be miserable for him.

    I would say off skates is the best way to go. Ramona is also staying in sneakers and bringing her son.

    Is there something that Ryan likes that we can incorporate to make him comfortable and apart of the special day? How does he feel about hats or some sort of dress up idea?

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  3. I agree with the above comments!
    Best wishes!

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  4. I'd leave him home with his dad. You deserve to have fun once in a while without worrying about your child -- and it does sound like a pretty overwhelming experience (I know my kids wouldn't do well.) Good luck whatever you do!

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  5. I would take him with, but have him on the side lines and if it becomes too much.. allow him the chance to leave.

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